Discovering Your Design?

You may have wondered, “Am I an introvert or an extrovert?”  There are a lot of misconceptions about what introvert and extrovert mean.  Many people believe that introverts are shy and quiet, may have nothing of value to contribute to a conversation or the workplace because they seldom do contribute vocally.  Extroverts, on the other hand, may be thought of as the life of the party, the automatic leader, or the person to look to for answers.  While these tendencies may be true in a handful of cases, this is not what it means to be extroverted or introverted.

When people are “labeled” with these stereotypes, they may begin to believe they “have nothing of value to contribute” or must “have all the answers”.  This can lead to feelings of depression and anxiety.   

Questions to ask yourself:

·      Do I draw energy from being in groups, or do groups draw energy out of me
·      Do I work better in a team setting or on my own
·      Do I express myself better through speaking or in writing
·      Do I enjoy solitude
·      Do I enjoy having “all eyes on me”

Knowing more about the way God created you can be very valuable.  If one is more introverted, they may seek work settings that allow them to have quiet space for working on a project alone.  For the more extroverted, they may thrive in settings where they are not isolated and have the ability to collaborate with others.  This knowledge can help you embrace the unique person God created you to be, helping you develop compassion not only for others, but also for yourself. 
I hope this helps you know yourself better!  If you would like to discuss these questions further and how to embrace your design, call me at 210.789.9166 for your free 15 minute phone consultation.  I would love to help you.

How to Find a Christian Counselor in San Antonio, Texas

San Antonio, Texas is a great place to live!  If you already live here then you already know this.  We have a small town feeling community with all the benefits of a large city.  Having lived all over the country, I can tell you some of the nicest people I have ever met are in San Antonio!

Finding a Christian counselor in San Antonio, Texas seems more daunting than it should be.  With so many large Christian churches around the city, it would make sense that there would be a need for a licensed professional counselor who would be able to counsel from a Christian perspective. 

Sometimes Christians have a hard time coming to terms with having "problems" and asking for help.  They may have heard that they just need to pray more, or lack faith.  These same people would have no trouble seeking help from a professional if they needed glasses or had a broken bone but if it comes to relational issues or feeling overwhelmed, seeking professional help isn't as acceptable.

For these reasons, many Christians either don't seek help or quickly become overwhelmed when trying to find a counselor who will have a similar Christian worldview.  How do you know if someone is really a Christian counselor and not just a counselor who says they're a Christian?  How do you know if they really understand what you're feeling and experiencing?

Here is a list of questions to ask a potential Christian counselor:

  1. What does it mean to you when you say you're a Christian counselor?
  2. What kind of training has prepared you to offer Christian counseling?
  3. Do you use empirically proven theories and methods or only use the Bible?
  4. Do you incorporate biblical principles in the counseling process?
  5. Do you think you can help me and why?
  6. Have you ever worked with a client like me?

In a ideal world, you would quickly and easily find a counselor who has specific training and expertise in the best and latest theories and who is a mature Christian specifically trained to incorporate a Christian worldview and professional counseling theories.  Unfortunately, this is not a perfect world.  So, in addition to these question you are going to be looking for someone who you feel comfortable with, you like and believe you can trust, and someone you feel comfortable enough having an authentic conversation with.

I hope this helps you!